As a Christian female, I must be willing to use that same submission to have a God fill life. I must submit daily to the Holy Spirit and his guidance. I must submit to my husband, my pastor, my children. my neighbors, my friends, to all. But until I can submit, first unto the Lord, to the spirit daily by dying to myself, I’ll never be able to submit to others. Why is it so hard for me to simply submit? Is do to lack of trust? How can I trust my Saviour with my soul, which will affect me for all eternity, and not my life which is temporal? And how do I start just submitting? How do you just do it? How do you just give your life over without thought or care, to something as mysterious to the Holy Spirit? Where do you get that faith and trust to just let go?

I wrote this a few days ago, submission really has been on my mind alot lately. I think, I know i think to much. The reason why some women have a harder to with the concept is because they have an overwhelming desire to be secure. If there husband can’t offer the security she needs, she will find it in other ways, to the point of taking on the male role. by doing that she will no longer see the need to submit.

After all what is she submiting too anyway, a life insecurity, doubt, being scared? That is no way for a person to live. I have often cotemplated this verse I Peter 3:7

	Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

What does it mean that the wife is the weaker vessel? Does it mean she is not physically strong, does it mean that she is not emotionally strong? Does it mean she is not spiritually strong? Well I beg to differ. Women can be physically stronger then their husbands, they can be better Christians then their husbands, they can even handle emotions better depending on the woman. I often heard it preached, “weaker vessels” means women are emtionally unstable, often because of their hormones.  You know I think that is a misinterpretation. I say that because I work with many women. We work in a trauma unit and we all have seen some pretty horrific events, events that could make the strongest man buckle, but we have been able to pull through it level headed, tears aside and even save lives, we have been strong emotionally even when the outcome is a sad untimely death. I can’t see it meaning emotion.I think what 1 Peter 3:7 in that we are weaker, the area is in our foundationly need to be safe. When women don’t feel safe, they do what they can to keep themselves safe.If men, pastors, leaders want their women in their homes and churches to be submissive, it must first start with them. They must make the women feel safe.